Who’s Your Coach?

By on April 13, 2014
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By Carol Doyel –

Coaching has become very popular and many successful people I know have or have worked with a coach. I personally know a lot of good coaches, but I have to confess I have not hired one – yet.  Many women I know who have used coaches have benefited tremendously from working with them.

Business coaches often promise to deliver great results, helping to turn your business or brand into a six-figure income earning enterprise.  Some are more concerned with your personal achievements and goals. I love the idea of having a coach to help keep me accountable and for their expertise that could save me a lot of time and money.

But keep in mind, when you hire a coach you also get their values, beliefs, mindset and principals that they bring into their coaching practice. We all have issues, baggage, and weaknesses that we bring into our relationships, ministry, and work.  After all, we all fall short of the glory of God.

As Christians we can make the mistake of working with people who do not share our values and beliefs and can find ourselves influenced by the world view or lifestyle of others- I Corinthians 15:33 states, “Bad company corrupts good character”. If you’re going to work with a coach it’s important to select one that shares your values and faith.

But before you hire a coach I want to ask you – Have you consulted your heavenly coach first? Have you read the original book on success? If not, I want to encourage you to do so.  Our first coach, and I might add our first love, should be our heavenly Father and His divine partners, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

The Bible to my knowledge is still the #1 bestselling book of all time – Why? Because the Word of God is living – and active as Hebrews 4:12 states and provides not only sound, proven advice for life but insights and revelations for your business, work, relationships, and ministry for today. You can read the Bible again and again and still receive new understanding and wisdom.  When we’re filled with the Holy Spirit – God can give us a Rhema word for our personal situation based on Biblical truth.

Matthew 4:4 says that “…it is written, man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God.” I believe this is a great example of how the logos, the written word of God, and the Rhema or spoken word that we hear when we spend time reading the Bible and seeking God, can direct our steps on a daily basis.

Our part – To be willing to diligently seek God for answers to our most difficult questions, to ask for help for our greatest challenges, and to seek His plans and purposes for our life. By hearing AND obeying the Word of God we’ll discover great blessings as Luke 11:28 (NIV) states, “Jesus replied, ‘Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it.’”

God desires to speak to us every day through His Word, to walk with us and to guide us through the power of the Holy Spirit whom we received by the blood of Jesus, so that we might be reconciled to God the Father according to John 16:13: “However, when He, the Spirit of Truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come.”

I want to suggest that before hiring a coach that you seek counsel from the best coach I know who can even reveal things even yet to come – the Holy Spirit!

Carol Doyel is Editor-in-Chief and Founder of LivingBetter50.com. She is a graduate of The Full Gospel Bible Institute and has a passion for women’s ministries, issues and lives. She and her husband of 25+ years have three grown kids and four grandchildren.  They currently reside in southern CA. Her desire is to inspire women to live better physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.



Carol Doyel

About Carol Doyel

Carol Doyel is Editor-in-Chief and Founder of LivingBetter50.com. She is a graduate of The Full Gospel Bible Institute and has a passion for women’s ministries, issues and lives. She and her husband of nearly 30 years have three grown kids and four grandchildren. They currently reside in southern California. Her desire is to inspire women to live better physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.


  1. Pamela

    April 14, 2014 at 9:33 am

    Well said, Carol.
    I do agree that anyone you have a relationship with can influence you, including a coach. Although the work of the coach is to help you discover answers and make decisions based on your values, preferences and unique perspectives; their values could still influence you.
    Your suggestion to ask the Holy Spirit (the Best coach) to help you make the right choice when considering hiring a coach is imperative; even if the coach is known as a Christian coach.
    Whether I am being coached or I am the coach, I like to invite the Holy Spirit to be a part of any session because He is well able to lead us in the right direction.

    • lb50

      April 16, 2014 at 12:30 pm

      Thank you Pamela for your thoughts and comment! I know a lot of great coaches and mentors who do a great job of putting aside their own needs to focus on the need’s of their client to help them overcome obstacles that keep them from achieving their goals. I appreciate working with women who inspire others to be all that they’re created to be, to discover their gifts and vision! I know without the incredible women that I’ve had in my life, who have groomed me, mentored me, loved me, I would not be doing what I’m doing. I’m a huge advocate of investing in ourselves including hiring coaches to help us achieve our goals – especially when we have a huge vision, we must be teachable and coachable if we want to achieve and do great things!

  2. Dixie

    April 14, 2014 at 10:54 am

    Since I am a Life Purpose Coach I wholeheartedly agree Carol. Coaching is what you make it. If you come into coaching thinking the coach is going to solve your issue you would be wrong. The way I see it, is that I get to assist the Holy Spirit in asking the right questions to bring you to the place of drawing the answers from within your own spirit. Not everyone is ready to move forward and take that risk. But those who are I have to say that I never cease to be amazed at the work I see Holy Spirit doing in their lives from week to week. It is an amazing process. Just read some of the stories of past clients:

    • lb50

      May 5, 2014 at 3:55 pm

      That is wonderful Dixie! I know your heart for women and when we bring the Holy Spirit into our work we can accomplish so much more and encourage people to seek God for direction. Thank you for being a part of our community! Bless you – Carol

  3. Lori

    December 14, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    One thing I have found is that we lack a culture of mentorship in our churches and in our society in general. I often see recommendations to find your self a mentor in business and entrepreneurial journals but it’s actually hard to find people who will agree to do this. This might be why people so readily pay for a coach. And despite some of the better known coach’s claims, I don’t think anyone has the skills or experience to be charging $500+ per hour….even Tony Robbins.

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