Love Again After 50

By on September 10, 2015
Wade and Vicky Mears

By Wade Mears –

On November 23, 2010, I lost my beloved wife of 27 years to pneumonia. God became closer to me than I had ever experienced before in my lifetime. It was through Him and the love and support of our church family at Lighthouse Baptist Church in Slidell, Louisiana, that my children and I made it through that tragedy.

But as the years passed, loneliness was my constant companion. Though my children were there to encourage me, I wondered if I would ever find someone I could love again. I asked myself, who would want to marry someone 52 years old with five children still living at home?

I continued praying and asking God for His wisdom and guidance. I waited for about three years before I decided it was time to start looking myself. It’s amazing how often we say we trust God to handle our life’s issues then take it upon ourselves to help Him out. How foolish!

I went to the Christian Mingle dating site and started searching. I received all kinds of contacts but no one that really interested me. I tried another dating site and met someone, but it didn’t work out. I became discouraged and finally gave up and prayed, “God, I will wait on you from now on.”

A week later, on February 16, 2014, I had this thought, “Try Christian Mingle one more time.” So I went on-line and this time I wrote up a full page of everything I was wanting in a wife. I believed if a woman could read my list and still want to talk with me, God might be in it.

Vicky had lost her husband almost a year before. She had a bad experience on Christian Mingle too. But on February 16, 2014, she also had the same thought, “Try Christian Mingle one more time” so she did. I found her profile and sent her a message. She responded back and we started communicating. It was a whirlwind romance.

Day one; we gave each other our life’s story. Day two; after getting her phone number, we talked for 5 ½ hours straight. Day five; we had our first date. She lived in Florence, MS and I lived in New Orleans, LA. We worked out the details over the phone and she told me as she was hanging up, “I love you!” I paused for a moment completely shaken by her words. She told me later that she became afraid because she had said those words and then I didn’t answer right away. But peace came to my heart and I was able to tell her “I love you too” and truly mean it.

I drove to her house that night and when I saw her for the very first time, my heart leaped for joy. Not only was she an incredible woman over the phone, she was beautiful too. Our first date was a cup of coffee at a Denny’s Restaurant. We just sat together, holding each other’s hand and staring into each other’s eyes.

I drove home that night with such joy and happiness I never imagined I would have again. The next morning she called me and asked if she could come and visit me. She came down and we spent the day together. That night, she was too tired to travel back home so she spent the night with my girls upstairs while I slept downstairs.

The next morning, we sat at my table and did our Bible devotions together and it was then that I asked her to marry me. She immediately responded with “yes!” It’s like a fairy tale come true. In just six days God worked everything out and we were married two months later; on April 19, 2014.

The past year has been amazing! God provided a job for Vicky right away and He provided us with our very first home together. I still have two daughters living with us and Vicky has been the absolute best stepmom and they love her very much. Because of health issues, my mom came to live with us just five days after we were married. Vicky loves and cares for her as if she was her own mom.

My Vicky is a loving wife, a Godly example for others to follow, and has a true servant’s heart for God and others. I’m so thankful God brought her to me. She is my life, my joy, and my best friend. I was truly blessed to find love again at 55.

To those reading this article, let God work in your life and wait on Him to provide. When He does, it will always be His best for you!

 

Wade retired from the Air Force after 22 years of service as a Master Sergeant. He currently works as a civilian supervisor with the US Marine Corps Reserve, Headquarters in New Orleans, LA. He received Christ as his Savior in June 1980 and has served the Lord in several Independent Fundamental Baptist churches all over the world. He’s currently a junior teacher at Lighthouse Baptist Church and helps the pastor serve the membership.

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Love Again After 50