Jumping Back in the Dating Pool: It’s Less Scary Than You Think

By on October 7, 2018

Dating can be scary. Depending on how long it’s been since you have been on a date, you may not have a clue where to begin to find a new mate. The world has moved on in recent years. First came internet dating, which made it significantly easier to meet new people. Now, we have dating apps like Tinder, which are a huge shock to the system if the last time you went on a date was 1985. 

The good news is that searching for the perfect partner doesn’t have to be a huge headache. In this article, we are going to give you a few tips for getting started. You may have to kiss a few frogs along the way, but Mr or Mrs Right is out there!

Are You Ready to Date?

This is an important question, so don’t skip over it. Be honest with yourself. Are you ready to start dating? If you have recently ended a long-term relationship, then don’t rush into dating again. Rebound relationships don’t do anyone any favours, least of all you. Take a bit of time getting used to the new status quo and only think about dating when you are emotionally ready.

Modern dating requires a generous helping of self-confidence and a thick skin. If you are feeling bruised and vulnerable, you need more time. Otherwise, let’s get started. 

Online Vs. Offline Dating

Offline dating is still a thing, but it has largely been overtaken by online dating and app dating. You could meet someone at work, or through a hobby. You may even have friends willing to set you up on a blind date. However, it’s a lot easier to meet new people via the internet, so give it a try.

Sign up to a reputable dating site and start browsing the singles in your area. You don’t have to message anyone if you want to take things slow. Get a feel for how it works and what sort of people are out there. You might be surprised at how many eligible singles in nearby!

Give Your Image an Overhaul

Before you create a profile, take a good, hard look in the mirror. Is your hairstyle circa 1989? Is your style more Kate Bush than Kate Moss? Now is a good time to have a decent haircut and buy some new clothes. Ditch your old-fashioned threads and invest in a few stylish new pieces for your wardrobe. If in doubt, consult a fashion-forward friend.

Making Connections

Now you are ready to put yourself out there, it is time to make some connections. On dating sites, this is relatively easy. You can send a message or ‘like’ someone. On dating apps, you swipe left or right. Try not to be too picky. Looks matter, but they are not the whole picture. 

Be open to new people. Just because someone has different interests and isn’t 6-feet tall, it doesn’t mean they aren’t nice or a great conversationalist. Step outside your comfort zone and give people a chance. 

First Dates

When you feel comfortable, consider meeting some of your new contacts. The only way to see if that all elusive chemistry is there is to actually meet in person. Don’t get too stressed about first dates. Keep your expectations low and then you won’t be too disappointed when the date doesn’t go as well as you’d hoped it would. 

Take it easy and have fun. Dating gives you a chance to meet new people. You might not find true love for a while, but you could make some good friends along the way. Enjoy it!

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Jumping Back in the Dating Pool: It’s Less Scary Than You Think