When Your Inner Child Becomes a “Material” Girl

By Tamara Elizabeth –

This time of year with all the fliers and mail/internet order fliers and catalogues arrive at your doorstep, our inner child evolves into a “material girl”. She comes out of the gate fighting- a ravaged shopper from hell – and she’s hungry. The pre-holiday sales are a fabulous carrot for the “material” girl to chase. She can’t resist. The more you think about the gifts you wish to bestow upon others the more she pulls on your heart strings to give her more, more, more!!!

Practicing “less is more” is wonderful, but at the time of the season with all the marvelous window displays and glitzy neon signs of enticement, your “material” girl is having a hard time with temptation. This is like a girl in a bakery with only 5 points left on her weight watchers daily point plan and nothing in the tantalizing bakery cases is under 15 points. There are so many wants, so many beckoning choices and beautiful things pulling a desiring finger towards you.

To deny these wants at this time of year by attempting various ways of deprivation are completely fruitless. Like trying to give up smoking while sitting in a smoke filled Casino – impossible. My cure is  – DON’T DENY THESE CRAVINGS! Reel in your wants. INDULGE! Surrender to your weakness; let yourself go. This is the only way to quiet your wants; it’s savvy and very, very effective. But the key is you don’t have to spend a cent.

Yes, you heard me correctly, no need for a corrective hearing device (or glasses for that case either.) So go wild and collect all the flyers, catalogues, and mail-order pamphlets that arrive at your door on a daily basis. Then find a quiet moment with just you your catalogs and a coffee. OK time to shop till you drop. Take a red marker and circle with abandon all you desire. Don’t let the price influence your choices. Money is no a hindrance – just shop as if you have all the money in the world. Remember it is just energy and spiritually you are abundant with that energy.

Red marker, pen and paper all ready – go on the greatest shopping spree in your life. Use your visualization skills and put on the cashmere sweater you have always wanted. Sit in the lounge chair you have desired for your tired back at the end of a long day. Feel the power of a gold bracelet around your wrist that you have longed to have clasp there. Flash the shiny bauble on your ring finger that you just can’t live without. Think about the mouthwatering dinner you are serving on your new china and flatware.

Tell yourself repeatedly that you can have exactly what you desire. Imagine with all your senses how life is with the things you want. Now that you have completed your list and dog-eared your catalogues put them all away in a drawer knowing your subconscious is satisfied. Now turn your attention to the real mater at hand, festive shopping for your loved ones. Your “material” girl is satiated and so you can concentrate on completing your passionate ritual of gift giving to others. When your material girls starts to whine – and she will – just remind her of the drawer filled with her earthy desires and she will quiet right down.

In January when all is quiet revisit your list and catalogues. You will find that most of the things you circled, highlighted or wrote down will not be as important to you now as they were before. You might even have acquired some of the items as gifts from others. Or most likely see the items not as demanding, wondering why you thought of them in the first place. Your “material” girl was looked after and now she is quiet. Why you ask? Your “material” girl was listened to. That is all she really wanted, just your attention. When you give into a demanding child the object of their desires, it loses its power instantly and the child doesn’t want it as much any more once he/she has the item.

When our wants are acknowledged they are quieted. We have peace and we can continue along our journey in harmony. Our subconscious is our own personal shopper and she gives the “material” girl in all of us a muzzle. When your desires are quieted your authenticity flourishes and reigns supreme.

Tamara Elizabeth is a certified self love and transformational coach and Master Motivator of women in transition. She empowers women to look into the mirror and reflect the fabulously lovable selves. She is the author of an inspirational book for women titled,” Fabulously Fifty and Reflecting It! –Discovering My Lovable Me. She strives to find the humor in life while empowering women to embrace and reflect upon their own journey to self love. Her website: http://moximize.me/