Book Excerpt: Fabulously Fifty and Reflecting It!
After I realized that real hair on a head that is not made of Styrofoam was itchy, hot, and cumbersome, I decided to take it off and wear it no longer. It was time to bring my inner beauty to the surface and let it shine through. After all, if I am going to lose my hair, which is so important to us woman, ‐ then have a funky SHORT cut! So I buzzed what was left short, in fact I was pretty well bald. I gasped, no I screeched in the mirror at first look.
I considered covering all mirrors with wrapping paper so they would look like birthday presents instead of windows to my superficial self. But who am I kidding, there is more to me than what is or what is not on my head; I’m actually lucky I was a C‐section birth because my head had no ugly malformations to it –wheh!
With time, this whole new look grew on me. The only change I desired first was to color the grey out because leaving it grey accentuated the bald spots, and I could only take so much change; bald might be beautiful but patchy grey, well that was just another story – that only looks good on the female canine species.
I decided that next in order was to get my makeup done to match the short hair‐do. I thought about trying to accentuate my sexy cheekbones or my luscious lips, anything to keep the focus off my head and onto my face. I settled on my eyes and accented their green and gold. My eyes have always been referred to as “sunflower eyes”. They have also had their color described as “breen” – combination of green and brown. I smile and communicate through my eyes; just ask my kids, they know the look.
Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical. ~ Sophia Loren
Letting my inner beauty radiate so large that people didn’t even notice my hair, or lack of it was extremely motivating. It was one of my steps to learning and embracing self‐love. I focused on who I am in the present instead of who I was with hair and who I would be if I had hair again. I celebrated the inner beauty that was bursting forth. It is very liberating to stay in the present and embrace who and what you are.
Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty they merely move it from their faces into their hearts.
Tamara Elizabeth is a certified self love and transformational coach and Master Motivator of women in transition. She empowers women to look into the mirror and reflect the fabulously lovable selves. She is the author of an inspirational book for women titled,” Fabulously Fifty and Reflecting It! –Discovering My Lovable Me. She strives to find the humor in life while empowering women to embrace and reflect upon their own journey to self love. Her website: http://moximize.me.