A Beauty Beyond Outward Appearance

By on September 30, 2012
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By Carol Doyel –

Beauty is not only skin deep. And it is not something that can be seen only with our eyes, but it’s something that we can sense. A beautiful woman is more than a just a great hair style, nice skin, great bone structure, a florescent smile, and a great figure. So don’t be deceived! Beauty is something that is much deeper, as described in 1 Peter 3:3-4:

“Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold,

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Or putting on fine apparel – rather let it be the hidden person of the heart,

With the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit;

Which is very precious in the sight of God.”

Beauty is something that you can sense when you stand in the presence of a beautiful woman, you can hear it in her voice; it’s a beauty that spans beyond the physical. It’s the grace she walks in, it’s her gracious mannerism, it’s the grace she extends, it’s her wisdom of understanding and the knowledge of who she is and what she represents, it’s what she brings to a conversation, or her ability to listen and not talk, it’s her willingness to take time out for those who may need her. 

A beautiful woman knows her position as a woman, and she extends herself to those in need, she stands for more than just self appreciation and looks for opportunities to appreciate others, she lives by her values, and knows what her priorities are, she does not waste time in idle talk and understands the preciousness of the resources she’s been given, she is kind hearted, but she is also like a lioness who protects and takes territory, she rises up and knows her purpose, she has vision, yet she is humble, but also courageous, she knows humility and has experienced it’s benefits, and knows where her power comes from. Beauty is more than one can define by outward appearances. 

When you know who you are and discover your true essence, your unique attributes as a woman of God and how to live more powerfully, you will find it much easier to accomplish your purposes in life. Beauty is seen in and through how we live our life. It can be seen in all aspects of our life including our relationship with the Lord, in our relationship with our spouse, our family and friends, as well as our work and businesses and/or our ministry.

True beauty reflects the inward character of a woman and how she spends her time and resources. Much like the Proverbs 31 woman who defines the kind of beauty that I’m referring to:

Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax,
and willingly works with her hands. She is like the merchant ships,
she brings her food from afar. She also rises while it is yet night,
and provides food for her household, and a portion for her maidservants.
She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard.
She girds herself in strength, and strengthens her arms.
She perceives that her merchandise is good, and her lamp does not go out by night.
She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hand holds the spindle.
She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household is clothed in scarlet.
She makes tapestry for herself; he clothing is fine linen and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies sashes for the merchants.
Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom. And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also,and her praises her;
‘Many daughters have done well, but you excel  them all.’
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing.
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.”

Please know that this is a very tall order to live by, but I challenge you to study the woman described in Proverbs 31 and ponder what attributes make this woman so valuable in the eyes of her husband and family, but more importantly, in the eyes of her heavenly Father.  If you do so and ask the Lord to show you how you can be more like this woman, by reading the Word and seeking God and His presence, you will be transformed into a more beautiful woman than any physical or natural beauty can ever be.


Carol Doyel is Editor-in-Chief and Founder of LivingBetter50.com. She is a graduate of The Full Gospel Bible Institute and has a passion for women’s ministries, issues and lives. She and her husband of 25 years have three grown kids and two grandchildren.  They spilt their time between Sisters Oregon and wherever her husband’s work may take them, which currently is southern CA. Her desire is to inspire other women to live better physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.

About Carol Doyel

Carol Doyel is Editor-in-Chief and Founder of LivingBetter50.com. She is a graduate of The Full Gospel Bible Institute and has a passion for women’s ministries, issues and lives. She and her husband of nearly 30 years have three grown kids and four grandchildren. They currently reside in southern California. Her desire is to inspire women to live better physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.

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A Beauty Beyond Outward Appearance