How to Avoid Being Ghosted on Dating Sites
By Living Better on October 24, 2019
LivingBetter50 sought after the reasoning behind the popular dating trend, ghosting. We discovered the ins and outs of ghosting, by conducting a survey to understand why people ghost others and the signs to look out for when you are about to be ghosted.
Ghosting, the term referring to a disappearance, ending a relationship or potential interest, by stopping all communication with the person they were dating with no warning or reason. Ghosting has quickly become a widespread trend among online daters. Nearly 75% of singles surveyed have admitted to ghosting someone they were casually dating, while 92% of hopeful singles have reported being a victim of the cruel act. The survey also found that more than three quarters (78%) of ghosters state that they would strike again.
If you’ve been ghosted in the past and are still unsure why just know that you aren’t alone! 48% of people ghosted claim that they also could never figure out why. We have collected some of the common reasons why ghosters have chosen to ghost someone in the past.
- 88% of those guilty of ghosting believe it is easier to cut communication without warning than confront the individual
- 15% of ghosters report that the person showing up for the date looked different from their online dating profile photo. This was the main cause of a ghosters disappearance
- 63% of ghosters say they stopped talking with an individual because they just lost interest
- 45% of users admit to dropping communication after a first date because they didn’t feel a connection
In efforts to put an end to this unfriendly trend, it is important to look out for signs that you might be ghosted in the near future to stop the ghost from striking. Signs that you might be single soon consist of:
- The person you are chatting with starts answering more sporadically
- The texts are non-conversational and cold
- The person’s calendar becomes full and they are unavailable
- The potential ghosters social media activity changes
Today’s dating culture is unpredictable, more people than not are getting ghosted by their date. If you are ghosted, make sure to call out that person. Try to get them to clarify why they lost interest in you. This will help to put your mind at ease. Delete the person’s number along with all social media connections and move on. If you find yourself in a situation where you are ghosted, don’t blame yourself, the person ghosting you probably wasn’t the one for you anyway. Go out and meet new people, your other half is still out there waiting for you!
When a relationship begins, there is no guarantee that both parties will feel the same way about each other and one risks the chance of being ghosted. To help avoid this from happening to you, consider these tips:
- Make sure that your profile is up to date and real. You are beautiful just the way you are
- If you have engaged to the point of a first date, don’t overshare. Leave some conversation for after the butterflies calm down
- If you get an uneasy, gut feeling, address it before it gets too weird.
