My Top Take-Home Tips From Dr. Gary Chapman (The 5 Love Languages)

By on April 19, 2012

The chances are good that you’ve either read or heard of the book, “The 5 Love Languages.” It’s a New York Times #1 bestseller, and has remained on marriage bestseller lists for the past 16 years – almost unheard of. Author Dr. Gary Chapman has been pivotal in teaching practical ways we can ‘live out” love.

During the conference, Dr. Chapman spoke about things he wished he knew then that he knows now.

Here are several points that made a strong impact on me:

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  1. “We spend far more of our time and energy on our careers than on our marriages. Is it any surprise that we excel at work, but often fail at home?” This struck me as one of those things that is totally obvious, and at the same time, totally easy to miss.
  2. “The best time to start learning about marriage is well-before you get married. Even while you are dating or thinking about dating.”
  3. “I wish I had known that although I am a morning person, my wife is an evening person. That way, we could have just met for lunch.” His point is that we often start of marriage with the false idea that we and our beloved will mesh easily. But it’s usually the opposite! We have to work to find ways to accommodate each other into a new “us.”

Experience is a great teacher. But we don’t have to learn from scratch every time.

So here’s my question and challenge for you today:

What one thing will you do to seek out the experiences and wisdom of others, and fold it into the fabric of your marriage?  


Dr. Ann


Originally posted on The Marriage Checklist.

About Dr. Ann

Dr. Ann is a Christian M.D., wife to a fantastic husband, and mom to a lively gang of three. At The Marriage Checklist Ann blogs about marriage, motherhood, and more! She helps women build better life balance and grow great marriages. Ann blogs on, and has been featured on, Fox news, and Good Morning America. She loves that every day we can choose to take our best steps forward – for God, for the people in our lives, and for ourselves. You can read more from Dr. Ann at

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My Top Take-Home Tips From Dr. Gary Chapman (The 5 Love Languages)