Sex, Religion, Politics — Conversation, Anyone?

By on February 29, 2012

Tea time -- so refined, so socially acceptable, so NOT the place to discuss certain things. Tea by the Sea by Steve Henderson

Sex, religion, politics – funny how the most interesting topics are the ones we’re not supposed to address in polite company, that is, if we’re determined to keep things polite.

While most of the time I am prosaically non-confrontational, I jumped into a social media forum last week with less than my usual diplomatic aplomb, but seriously, the other guy started it.

(By the way, if you’re my mother and you don’t understand what I did, it’s as if I were passing by a group of people, overheard a total stranger’s comment to a distant acquaintance, and stuck my mouth in.)

I’d like to know if any of you could have resisted:

“I don’t know,” the guy moaned. “I don’t really have any opinion on any of the candidates or anything and I’m not up on any of the issues and I don’t know if I’ll get around to it, but if I ever do decide to vote, I’ll do it on Biblical principles.”

This guy is scary. Whatever Biblical principles he was nominally thinking of, I’m sure the average atheist would agree that they don’t encompass apathetic witlessness and passive illiteracy of oblivious thought, the latter an activity I engaged in when my fingers moved faster than my brain synapses to type:

“A major Biblical principle is to love your neighbor as yourself, and any politician who promises to stay out of our lives and let us live and let live is probably as close to Biblical principles as you can hope to get,” or something like that.

Is there anything so wrong with the concept that a man's -- or a woman's -- home is his -- or her -- castle, and they can live in it without undue interference from other, generally governmental, bodies? Bayside by Steve Henderson

I don’t deny that I calculatingly tossed in that gauntlet, and it was no surprise when a sweetly religious woman lassoed me with a series of Bible verses, tying me up and trussing me like a chicken, but not so tightly that I couldn’t tap out a few gasping thoughts.

Do I never learn?

Within minutes she was back, shards of glass embedded in the rope this time, pretty much garroting me with a select choice of verses and her appropriate interpretations, forcefully instructing me that “live and let live” is not a phrase to be found in the Bible (I know that), unequivacobly bringing the “conversation” to a close with,

“This has been a nice discussion and God bless.”

I am eternally grateful – no pun intended – that I encountered and made my decision about Christianity before meeting people like this.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that Christians need to be in politics, or that they don’t need to be in politics, I’m saying that if people are going to take Christians seriously – in the political, social, commercial, private, and public arenas – then Christians need to be serious about:

1)      Thinking

2)      Listening to the ideas of others

3)      Responding with grace and humility

4)      Recognizing that we can disagree and promote our opinions without resorting to beating people into submission with words, platitudes and Bible verses

5)      Accepting that it’s not our job to change the world, but in the lifelong process of allowing Christ to change and shape us, we will manage to do so despite ourselves

You can't change other people. You can only change yourself, and even that takes a lot of time. Time Out by Steve Henderson

“God bless” is not a salutation or a sign off but a heartfelt wish for the wellbeing of the recipient’s soul, and it’s not very convincing coming from someone who has just made us feel small, unimportant, injudicious and irresponsible. End of conversation. This has been nice. God bless us all.

And social media sites are not the best platform for connecting with people – beyond a hopelessly superficial level – on key issues like sex, religion, and politics.

I wonder how long it will be before I grow up and learn this?

 

Originally posted on Middle Aged Plague.

About Carolyn Henderson

Carolyn Henderson writes about modern life’s oddities and ends at This Woman Writes — www.thiswomanwrites.areavoices.com. She is the author of Grammar Despair: Quick, simple solutions to problems like, “Do I say him and me or him and I?” and the manager of Steve Henderson Fine Art.

One Comment

  1. Sandra at Thistle Cove Farm

    July 5, 2012 at 9:39 am

    Good article and guilty as charged, of giving my opinion, although, generally it’s in response to a comment or question. What burns me are the folks who want/expect/demand “tolerance” yet are so unwilling to give it. Unless, of course, I’m in agreement with them and then they’ll shower me with tolerance. Just yesterday, a woman commented on my blog and said she disagreed, pretty much, with all the quotes and “the guy in the photo frightens me to death”. When I said, “Why? He’s dead.” she responded with a bunch of words in sentences that had absolutely NO thought or reasoning to support them. Plus, she was rude to me personally.
    That did it. NO ONE has the right, NOR MY PERMISSION to be rude to me. I told her so; told her it was expected of her to be nice, not rude and rude behavior would not be tolerated.
    So, she withdrew her comment from the blog…perhaps she thought our netversation was public? It wasn’t, not yet at least.
    All that to say, there’s a disturbing lack of manners and civility in public these days. The vilest curse words can be heard from the mouths of mere babes. Women advertise their bodies with wantonness and children act like they were raised by wolves.
    Please, help me off my soapbox before I hurt myself -LOL-.

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