Choose Your Words Wisely

By Aleathea Higginbottom−

Choice –
1. An act of selecting or making a decision when faced with two or more possibilities
    the choice between good and evil
2. The right or ability to make, or possibility of making, such a selection:
3. A course of action, thing, or person that is selected or decided upon

Choice is a powerful word. It has been since the creation of man. Even God Himself created man with the ability to choose, and gave him the space to do so with the knowledge of consequences. Wars have been fought over choices. Countless lives have been lost for the right to choose. We make choices every day all day long. Life in itself is a choice, and that is where it starts. After that decision, our lives are a manifestation of choices that were made. They were either our choices or the choices of someone else. Regardless, the fruit is in the story that is played out before us. Our very thought process, are the result of chosen programming. Of course we know that the information that has been programmed/taught to the mind, is t he well from which our decisions originate and are able to thrive.

I have been thinking a lot about the words that we choose to speak to others. This blog is really not about abuse and breaking down the different forms of abuse or explaining the cycle. That is for another time. This blog is about people making choice’s to say and do things to a person that they claim to love and not understanding the consequences. When a person is in a love relationship, please keep in mind to choose your words wisely. Mental, emotional, verbal abuse can leave more scares and damage to an individual the same as if not worse than physical abuse. That being said, I had someone say some things to me while in a love relationship that were cruel and shocking. My thought was, what do you think you’re going to receive out of saying these things to me? How do you see the recovery process going with us, because of the words that you’ve chosen to speak? All I can think to myself is, “this is how you handle your love for me?” I think these are questions we should ask ourselves before we open our mouth. But of course one has to really care how words that are spoken affect another. That is the key. I understand that we make mistakes but come on, cruelty is just a no.

This mouth has the power to tare down systems, countries, people, change lives and start wars. It is time to make the decision and stop making excuses for the words that we choose. Whatever issues that we have, we need to do what’s needed to deal with them so that the well of the heart does not spew out poison and contaminate someone else’s life.

How do we take care of the ones we love verbally? If you can’t or won’t control your mouth, walk away. Always think about the aftermath. Human beings have a tendency to hold on to the negative more than the positive, from someone that we deem important, or have power over us to some capacity. I use Google for so many things. If I don’t know how to do something, I educate myself. Between Youtube, the bookstore, and the internet, there is no reason why the self work is impossible. If help is needed, counseling, friends, journaling, some vehicle can help me get to the place I need to be. With all of these things available, the “that’s just how I am,” excuse is not longer valid, especially if how you are hurting everyone else. The “I don’t care if they like it or me,” doesn’t work anymore either. We have to remember that things do come back around. So what we want from others, we have to plant it. If it comes back as weeds, then they need to be pulled out of the garden of life so that we can continue to flourish.

Love, Love, Love, take care of your love life with kind words, affirming words, words that nourish and produce growth. Are you really aware of your interaction, your conversation, your ability to handle confrontation? What word choices are you making everyday? It’s time to do a word check. It’s time to make a change.

Cite: http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/choice 2016016