Birthing Pains – A Memory Never to Forget

By on April 30, 2019
Birthing Pain

My husband and I were out walking by a large pond in our neighborhood. We live in the Low country of South Carolina and our ponds are full of alligators as well as other reptiles and amphibians. They prefer freshwater but can also be found in brackish water. We have blue herons, snowy egrets, cormorants, ospreys, red-tailed hawks, ibis, and wood storks, all of which make our walks so incredibly delightful. That day, the gators were out in full force. There must have been five or six that we saw on our walk.

For the first time ever we heard an alligator growl. Our neighbors who were walking several steps ahead stopped and shouted back, “Hey, did you hear that?” “Yes,” I said, “But what is it?” He said that it was the sound of an alligator in mating season.

It reminded me of a time when I was a young woman and I growled at my husband like that. It was in the labor room as I was getting ready to give birth to my first son, Logan. I had been in eighteen hours of hard, “Pitocin-induced” labor, with its characteristic intense and abrupt contractions of the uterus. I cannot remember ever being in such pain. It seemed as though it would go on forever and that there was no end in site.

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However, when my sweet baby son was placed in my arms, all the pain I had experienced seemed to fade away from my memory. As I peered into his beautiful blue eyes, I saw in him the reflection of my husband and me looking down at him. JOY. What joy!

He was perfect.

When a baby is being born, it has to be pushed through the birth canal. He has to leave his place of security and comfort and go to a new place, a place of the unknown. It cannot be a pain-free process for either the mother or the child but, when complete, the baby feels safe in his parents’ arms.  The child quickly identifies with the mother who carried him for nine months, and the child recognizes the father as he quickly connects with him also. The pain is soon forgotten and the joy of childbirth takes its place.

If you have ever had children you might remember that precious look in your baby’s eyes when they first looked up and recognized their father. The newborn knows almost nothing, yet he knows to whom he belongs. Think back to the time when you saw the father gazing into the eyes of his newborn. Dad was beaming with joy at every sound and every little movement. 

Now take this picture of a father and a newborn and apply that to how God feels when we have come through a difficult period of refinement. He smiles down at His child. He is so pleased. He sees more of His own perfect reflection as He gazes into the soul, which has been refined.

 Was all the pain worth it?

Yes. Yes. Yes. Pain is here for a season, but there is a joy that comes in the morning. Joy bubbles up on the inside of you when you come through the fires of refinement. It is a joy that cannot compare with mere happiness. It’s deeper. It’s richer. It’s more intense. It is a joy that cannot be shaken.

God sees Himself in the eyes of the refined soul.

Embrace refinement. Remember what happens to you when you get through it; a joy that will never be forgotten.

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EncouragementRobin Bertram is an author, speaker, ordained minister, and the executive producer and former host of the nationally and internationally syndicated television show, Freedom Today. She has been a leader of media leaders for 25 years and has placed several Christian programs onto the national and international stage. She is the author of No Regrets how loving deeply and living passionately can impact your legacy forever and Hidden Treasures


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Birthing Pains – A Memory Never to Forget