For a woman in her fifties today, empty nest syndrome has taken on a whole new meaning. Our grandmothers were most likely stay-at-home moms, complete with all of the traditions and family values of the times. Our mothers, on the other hand, had to get out into the workforce to help make ends meet. By the time we had children of our own, a stay-at-home mom was obsolete in most cases.
This means our children were raised by babysitters and teachers. Not a bad thing, but many women over fifty feel they never developed the close bond with their children that women of the past were able to establish. How does this affect the empty nest syndrome?
On the one hand, we are confident that our children have minds of their own and are able to make their own decisions and live their own lives. On the other hand, there is a deep feeling of guilt. Did I instill the proper values? Did I give all I could? Now they are grown and we can’t change what type of people they grew into. So, we just feel sad and hope everything works out for the best.
More experiences and a wider group of influences is always a good thing for a developing mind. Today’s woman should not feel guilt over how she raised her children. Being your own person, having a successful career and living your own life is the best example you can set for your children. They will learn more from this example than anything else you may have been able to teach them by staying at home with them for eighteen years.
When they decide to leave home and create a life on their own, you will be filled with pride and the knowledge that they have the skills they need to make it in the world. Of course, the emotional strains will still be there. You may feel a sense of loss. Your role as a mother will change, but not nearly as much as previous generations. The transition should be much easier. And always remember, your children need you and love you no matter how old they get.
What You Can Do For Your Children
Brush your teeth, eat your veggies and all that stuff is great, but what children really need is to learn how to handle their finances. Teaching them from a young age how to budget, save money, respect credit, and to invest wisely is just as valuable as a healthy lifestyle.
They say money can’t buy happiness, but financial troubles can definitely ruin all chances of happiness. Life is all about balance – a balanced diet, a balanced social life and a balanced financial situation. By the time we have to face the empty nest syndrome, we have hopefully learned this lesson ourselves. Passing this lesson onto our children is the best gift we can ever give.
But, the lesson should be shown, not told. We can teach so much more by example than instruction, especially if our children spend more time with others than ourselves. Get your finances in order and your children will have a healthy, happy financial future.
Once you have done that, you can enjoy the company of the wonderful adult children you raised and have fun with your grandchildren. Life after fifty and the empty nest syndrome is much less stressful than ever before. With a good financial strategy, a gainful career and a healthy lifestyle, this is one hurdle you can cross without effort. Plus, you can rest assured that you have raised a generation of healthy, happy and financially secure individuals ready to rule the world.